Subject: "Help With Whining Toddler"
1 – Rest and Delight
Proverbs 29:17 “Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.”
When everything is the correct, biblical way in our child’s life, our children will give us rest and delight. When these two things are lacking (rest and delight), something(s) are missing either in us or our children or both.
2 – If you study “crying” and “calling out” in Scripture, you’ll find a pattern of it arising from a need for help. From the moment we are born, we learn how to cry even when we cannot communicate in any other way. Our natural response to crying is to feed our little one or put them to bed, but children need much more than sleep and food. Constant whining is usually a sign that a bigger need is not being met. Humans cry out when we are in need.
3 – Order
I Cor. 14:40 “Let all things be done decently and in order.” Is there order in your home? Regular set time for going to sleep and waking up, for afternoon rest time (see our article “Daily Siesta, Weekly Fiesta”), meals, play time, etc…. Kids excel when their house, room, life, schedule, etc… are ordered.
4 – Investment
Train: Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Teach: Deuteronomy 6:7 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”
Children excel when their parents invest in them. As you can see from Deut. 6:7, the required investment takes most of our time (diligently; sittest; walkest; liest; risest). Training is different from teaching in that it requires a hands on investment. Most children do not turn out right, not because their parents didn’t teach them God, but because their parents didn’t train them. Potty training, bicycle training, eating training, talking training, swimming training, washing dishes training, patience training, etc, etc… take a lot of gentle, loving time.
5 – Relationship
Proverbs 23:26 “My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways.”
Do you have your child’s heart? In order to gain your child’s heart, they must know you love them. Kids don’t comprehend the complexity of life yet, so the lessons must be very simple. Kids understand fun and laughter, and interpret fun and laughter as love. If you want your child’s heart, you must learn to play with them, laugh with them, have fun with them. As I Cor. 13 makes abundantly clear, nothing replaces love. And even when parents make a lot of mistakes, “love covereth all sins” (Pro. 10:12) and “charity shall cover the multitude of sins.” (I Pt. 4:8) Our children will put up with a lot if their parents’ love is loud and clear to them.